Could I be in a relationship?

How was everyone’s New Years?

Mine was unbelievably tame for once….. I went to bed before 11pm and was reading a book at the stroke of midnight.  Don’t feel too bad for me though, there were some big days before and after New Years that I have been having some fun and being more social.

I wanted to post and see if any of you guys had anything special for your New Years Resolutions.

I was thinking, maybe this year I should try having a relationship, like a proper one not just casual sex?  What do you guys think?  That could be fun to see where it leads?

Big question, guy or girl?  Can I choose both?

Second big question would be around monogamy…..

This is sounding very complex guys, I’m not sure my lifestyle would ever suit a ‘relationship’, definitely not in the traditional definition.

That is enough serious talk, one thing I would love to do this year is find a pair of these speedos.  I’m going to guess they are making a statement more about the 80’s than Rainbow Gay Pride but I like them.  If anyone knows where to find a pair please let me know.

Rainbow Gay Pride Speedo

Girls Drive me Crazy

There is a reason why there are a growing number of gay guys (maybe not growing but a growing number of ‘out’ guys for sure) – it is because girls (some of them) are crazy.

Over the last 2 or 3 weeks I’ve been courting this cute little brunette here in town – she has lived here a couple of years and she is really cute.

Last weekend she ended up back at the house after a big night and she slept in my bed.  We didn’t shag but we did pretty much everything else.  The next day we slept in, I made her breakfast and I dropped her home.

Note: Kip is the best wingman on the planet and once he knew I had a girl back at the house he made himself scarce and went for a snowboard in the morning so we had the house to ourselves.

Back to to story – so the chick (we’ll call her McFly – I’m not telling you why), tells me over breakfast that a year ago she hooked up with this guy and he is back in town.  She really liked him and they clicked but the day before he left, she found out that he was married and had at least one kid.  He had taken off his wedding ring while he was on a boys trip to Breckenridge skiing.  McFly said she was pissed off and wants to kick him in the nuts if she saw him in town.

We are friends on the Facestalker and she was busy with work so we haven’t had a chance to catch up since breakfast but now I’m reading on facebook that she has forgiven him and having a great time with “an old friend”.

Are you kidding me?  I only wish I was as big a dirt bag as this guy – what an arsehole and how stupid of McFly.

I’ve seen this a few times with female friends of mine who hook up with married guys and they are soooo gullable to their bullshit.

I’m disappointed in McFly and there are so many great, smart girls out there who deserve a guy who doesn’t lie or bullshit (that is me of course).  I don’t think I’ll persue her anymore.

Would love to hear what you guys think – leave a comment (you have to click on the post and then the comment box will appear at the bottom).

Weekend with Will

I haven’t posted about Will a whole lote lately.

To be honest I just haven’t seen him much at all. He had a girlfriend that he was getting pretty serious with and I suppose it isn’t the first time that someone has gone awol after a new flame in their life. I got to meet his girlfriend once and I didn’t think too much of her but I didn’t want to sound like a lover scorned so I put on a brave face and kept my thoughts to myself.

Well, they broke up last weekend and I think Will is a little beat up about it so I invited him to come up the coast for a weekend out of the city.

I think we might head out to some wineries and if I can find a good deal maybe we’ll even have a night out there somewhere (anyone got a recommendation?).

Will and I go back a long way and he is one of the few non-work people I have been able to share the speedo lawsuit thingy with. He is one of the very few guys that I could ever see myself being in a ‘grown up’ relationship with. I can’t remember the last time I got to cuddle with someone I really cared about.

Fat and Back

This morning on the train ride down to Sydney I was going through my day book/diary (it isn’t like a “Dear Diary” it is more of a “Don’t forget rent is due today” kind of diary).

Every time I make a move or change I like to think of why I moved, what I wanted to achieve perhaps some bad habits I wanted to kick. Once I’ve figured out where I’ve come from I feel I can really concentrate on where I want to go – what I want to work harder on, a few new bad habits I might want to kick – hahaha.

Moving the coast and the warmer weather I wanted to live a little cleaner, drink a little less or maybe just a little less often, use that to get a little fitter, spend more time working and keep my eyes and ears to the ground for a ‘proper’ relationship.

The last one hasn’t eventuated but I’m not complaining about the fun that I’ve had with Will, Natalie and the sheer number of guys looking to hookup online that have kept me occupied.

I have been partying/drinking less – although last weekend was back to the usual Dave. I’m happy that I am having less days hungover and it is a habit that I know I’ll be able to maintain.

Work, I’ve been working really hard and particularly in the last 3 months I’ve been on the ball and it has showed with the work that I’m doing, the work that Kip is doing and the projects that are in development. And a lot of the members at are really happy with some of the improvements over there.

The fitness goal is something that has slipped in the last month or so with the colder weather but I have lost about 7.5kgs since I got here and I haven’t changed my diet I’m just exercising more. I do feel great and I think I look great (it is the eye of the beholder though) – this is going to be a difficult habit to keep in the cold down in Queenstown but I’m really really going to try hard and work on keeping this level of fitness. There is a pool in town.

I remember back in February I saw an article of this Melbourne gym junkie ‘Paul James’ and how he put on 40kgs – from 80kgs to 120kgs. A close friend of mine looks as fat as PJ does in his fat fotos and always made an excuse, “he’s always been like that”, “his family are all that big”, “he is retaining water” etc etc. Seeing those pics of PJ and how he lost that weight again goes to show that there is no excuses…..

I’ve got a couple of days of travel ahead of me and I’m looking forward to the next chapter and if you are still reading this uber long post…. looks like you’ll be along for the ride.

Here are some pics of PJ – 120kgs and then at 80kgs…..